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October 26, 2009

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Dave Johnson

We largely agree. I think you've misunderstood some of my comments. It will take me a few days to get a reply completed. Thanks for getting this started!

Marie

Hi, Kellin and Dave -

Okay, this topic is something I know very little about -- but I do have a thought to add.

In 2002, I lost my well-paying job, couldn't find a job (any job) because my market disappeared and I was too "over qualified" for entry level positions in any other field. McDonald's wouldn't even interview me. I spiraled down into financial ruin.

Fortunately, I have awesome family and friends who helped me out . . and, I am smart, hard working, resourceful and determined, so I was able to reinvent myself professionally and am slowly rebuilding financially. Along the way, I learned many valuable life lessons that are benefiting my life today.

But, I must say -- the experience really rattled my sense of who I am. It took me to very low places from which I wasn't sure I was going to come back. Most days I wanted to die. Most days I didn't want to get out of bed – and showing up for jobs I hated was almost too hard to do. I really didn't want to participate in life, at any level.

So, if I struggled so hard to keep moving forward despite all the advantages I had (and the reasons for hope I had), how in the hell is someone who basically has no advantages supposed to have enough hope to show up for a job or fill out paperwork? It seems to me that many of them might be attempting to commit a sort of suicide by apathy -- which doesn't sound like such a bad option when one is that low.

Just a thought.

- Marie (Coming Out of the Trees)

P.S. I wasn't able to jump through all the hoops required to comment on Dave's site.

Kellen

Hi Marie,

I'm sorry to hear you had such a horrible experience. I'm afraid that experience is going to be shared by many more Americans in the future if our economy doesn't recover quickly. Losing everything you have worked so hard for can be totally devastating, not just financially, but physically, emotionally and mentally.

You have made an excellent point. Someone who has functioned fairly well their entire life can have a very hard time adjusting to such devastating losses and suicide may sometimes seem like an option. I think in individuals and families who have never functioned at that high level the repeated failures they experience is just as devastating, causing them to give up and lose all form of self-respect and hope. That's why I think it so important to focus on the humanity of homelessness rather than just tossing them in affordable housing. People need mental health treatment provided to them along with financial and housing assistance. We are not just numbers.

Thank you for your very insightful feedback. I'm happy you had family and friends who were there for you. I admire the strength and courage with which you overcame the situation. If you are now finding your back out of the trees, I'm sure it is because of the strength and courage with which you faced the situation and overcame it. Kudos to you and those who were there for you. I only wish we had more resources available so that your journey needn't have been so difficult.

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