"I want someone who will take care of me."
Why? Are you an infant? Grow up. Grownups take care of themselves. They do not look for someone to take care of them. Women cannot expect to be treated as equals if they do not act like equals. Expecting someone else to take care of you infantalizes you and makes you an inferior. Stand up and be responsible for yourself. In this economy it takes two people working full-time to keep most families afloat and financially stable.
This works both ways. When a man tells me he wants to find a good woman I feel the same way. Would a good woman look twice at you? You don't work. You hang out on that bar stool all day or in the alley with your drug using buddies. Do you expect to find a good woman in the alley or the bar?
Be the kind of partner you want to find, and everything else will take care of itself.
See also, "Beauty and the Beast and Women in Relationships"