Fear of Rejection

She's Afraid I Won't Like Her

So she doesn't talk about It
She skirts It
She avoids It
She denies that she feels It
She denies that she thinks It
She denies that she does It

She is afraid It is abnormal
She is afraid that I will label her "crazy"

I want to tell her that It is perfectly normal
I want to tell her, this is what people do
But I can't, because she hasn't told me about It
Because she thinks I won't like her if I know about It
So I wait
And I watch
As she gets stronger and feels safer and gets closer
To telling me about It
Without realizing
I already know about It

And I still like her

 

Comments

[Kerro]

Wow. This is great. Thanks for sharing it.

[Carla]

This happens with my therapist all the time. Then when I do tell her and she tells me her feelings towards me haven't changed I don't believe her anyway.

[Kellen]

Thank you Kerro. You are very welcome.

Hi Carla,

Have you told her this?

[felix]

Hi Kellen,

In this post I notice that you refer to a female; was this an unconscious act by you? I am interested; why you did not refer to a male when in some posts you alternate between the two?

[Kellen]

Hi Felix,

You are very perceptive. This was a woman with whom I was interacting. But I've experienced it with men just as often.