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To "Heal" or not to "Heal"...

... that is the question.  A veteran of Vietnam was talking about his experiences in Vietnam, about coming home and about the trauma he experienced and about how others believed he should react to that trauma.  The mental health professionals, the V.A., his family and his friends all wanted him to "heal".  But what they meant by "heal" was to forget, to stop talking about it, to move forward as if nothing happened.  But he disagrees.  He doesn't want to "heal".  He wants to remember.

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Laughter Really is the Best Medicine

My video collection is inexplicable, unless you understand its purpose.  The only movies I actually purchase to keep are those which are safe and make me laugh.  I know no one dies, there is no violence, no animals are killed or harmed in the viewing of this movie and it makes me laugh.

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Tilting at Windmills

They say troubles come in threes.  I think issues must too.  It seems that clients and colleagues alike seem to be struggling with the same issues at the same time.  One week I'll have a plethora of "Victims" in my office.  The next a lot of depression.  This week it seems to be people tilting at windmills.  I'm still trying to figure out if I just become sensitive to an issue so that is what I see everywhere.  Or if everyone is truly struggling with the same thing at the same time.  Either way, I seem to be surrounded by people tilting at windmills this week.

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Stuck in a Rut

Some wise person once said that a rut is a grave not yet filled in.  I'm stuck in a rut, and I choose to stay there.  How does someone with psychological training get in a rut?  We're just like everyone else and we fumble and stumble our way through life like everyone else.  If we are healthy, though, we are doing our own work.  How does a therapist handle being in a rut?  Well, let's see...

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Just Feel Your Feelings

She's about to come out of her skin.  She attributes this to her period and/or her psychiatric medications.  She says that she doesn't know what is wrong, but she just feels like crying.  Some days, counseling is not rocket science.  It's just reallllly simple.  "So cry!" I tell her.  If you feel like crying, cry.  It really is that simple.

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It's All in the Delivery: How to Deliver Bad News

Though my family has its dysfunction and quirks like every other family, one thing we have learned to negotiate is how to deliver bad news.  Whether you need to tell someone something they don't want to hear about themselves or whether you need to tell them something catastrophic has occurred, delivering bad news is something we do pretty well.  (You'll see all the things we don't do so well on other pages in this blog!)

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