"People don't get defensive unless they have something to defend."
It seems most Americans like to think of themselves as thinking beings who happen to feel. But research into the human brain shows that we are instead feeling beings who are able to think. I believe our failure to recognize this causes untold frustration and the current epidemic of people being diagnosed with depression.
I'm reading "Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse" by Mike Lew and he discusses his interactions with victims of sexual child abuse and their tendency to ask the question above.
I'm often puzzled by the way people think about words; which words offend them and which ones they think nothing of using.
Men and women have different needs and communicate them in different ways. This can create some serious misunderstandings, hurt feelings, frustration and resentment.