I'm truly saddened by the number of people who truly have no idea what to do when they are sad. It's really simple..
I was once working with a child who was also seeing a psychiatrist. Like many children with whom I work this child had numerous diagnoses: ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Anxiety Disorder and Intermittent Explosive Disorder. However, when the mother would describe the child's behavior I would instantly think "trauma". I kept saying this to her, but she was swayed by the authority of the doctor and maintained his belief the child was mentally ill. Until her child told her he had been sexually and physically abused.
I could hear the screaming from outside of the house. I stopped and listened for evidence of escalation and/or violence, decided it was just screaming and decided to go do something else until the battle was over. Aren't the holidays fun?
Throughout the years I've agonized when working with dual diagnosis clients who attend Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or any of their sister programs. Too often there are well-meaning people in the groups who take it upon themselves to give psychological or medical advice. All too often, this results in tremendous damage. One of the major offenders is the idea that any member of AA, CA or NA who is taking psychiatric medications is not "clean and sober". Not only is this bad advice it's not the official policy of AA.
The after school program called to say they had a medical emergency with a child and could not locate the mother. They were asking if we could help them find the mother and have her call them. Then the drama started...
I'm working with a family who is going through an interesting transition as they move the Scapegoat role from one member to another and use intellectualism to do it.
I'm reading the August 2009 edition (yes I am a little bit behind in my reading) of Yoga Journal and I am reminded once again of all the benefits yoga has to offer in one's struggle for peace of mind and mental health.
I write a lot about the importance of feeling your feelings and being in touch with the messages thay are sending you. Perhaps this is because I rely so heavily on them in my everyday work. I cannot imagine being without them.
"But I don't want to be weak", he said.
Another possible way that Scapegoats make themselves targets is by expressing forbidden emotions within a relationship system.