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On Helping Others: "Give a Man a Fish..."

"...and he eats for a day.  Teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime."

  Sometimes, those of us working in the helping fields forget this.  A client pulls our heartstrings and we jump in to "save" them.  Now please don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that helping people is wrong.  It's not.  But there's a way to help people that is for them.  And there is a way to help people that is more about you.  It's important to know the difference.

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The Oxygen Mask

I see a lot of parents, especially mother's who believe that the children should always come first, before themselves, before their marriage, before everything.  When clients bring this belief to me, I always ask them about the safety instructions they receive when flying.  Try to remember what the flight attendant said to people traveling with a small child.  If the plane hits turbulence and the oxygen masks drop down, who do you put the mask on first, yourself or the child?

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