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Someone I Love is Dying

And I cry.

"Grief is Love's Unwillingness to Let Go"

I don't know where I originally saw this or who said it.  If you know, please enlighten me so I can give them proper credit.  Whoever said it, I think it is truly beautiful. 

Just Cry When You're Sad

"But I don't want to be weak", he said.

Trauma and Numbing

Survivors of trauma, especially childhood abuse, often use numbing as a technique for dealing with strong or painful emotions.

Are We Thinking Beings Which Feel or Feeling Beings Which Think?

It seems most Americans like to think of themselves as thinking beings who happen to feel.  But research into the human brain shows that we are instead feeling beings who are able to think.  I believe our failure to recognize this causes untold frustration and the current epidemic of people being diagnosed with depression.

Laughter Really is the Best Medicine

My video collection is inexplicable, unless you understand its purpose.  The only movies I actually purchase to keep are those which are safe and make me laugh.  I know no one dies, there is no violence, no animals are killed or harmed in the viewing of this movie and it makes me laugh.

The Man of the House

Once again I watched as an 8 year boy (with a 10 year old sister and a 6 year old brother) was told he was now "the man of the house" and "you have to look out for your mom, brother and sister now".  His father and mother have divorced and this advice was coming for a seemingly well-intentioned adult, but it made my hair curl.  Why?

Just Feel Your Feelings

She's about to come out of her skin.  She attributes this to her period and/or her psychiatric medications.  She says that she doesn't know what is wrong, but she just feels like crying.  Some days, counseling is not rocket science.  It's just reallllly simple.  "So cry!" I tell her.  If you feel like crying, cry.  It really is that simple.

Helping the "Helpless"

This article is a response to a question posted on Intent.com, "How do We Help the Helpless?"  Since I work with homeless families in a homeless shelter everyday, this question raised strong emotions for me.  The word "helpless" hit me right between the eyes.  Why?

How to Help Someone Grieve

A client, who recently lost a brother, asked me how she could help her mother who was still grieving the loss of her son.  It was an excellent question.  American culture does not teach us how to grieve.  A not-so-uncommon approach is to go to the doctor and get an antidepressant to avoid feeling the pain.  But this only delays the inevitable.  It does not help you to grieve.  And it does not help the person you care about to grieve and move on.  How do you help another person grieve in a healthy way?