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Are We Thinking Beings Which Feel or Feeling Beings Which Think?

It seems most Americans like to think of themselves as thinking beings who happen to feel.  But research into the human brain shows that we are instead feeling beings who are able to think.  I believe our failure to recognize this causes untold frustration and the current epidemic of people being diagnosed with depression.

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I'm not Racist. I'm Sexist! : How to Approach a Woman, Alone, at Night.

Often, when walking alone at night scanning the environment for danger, I have had minority males accuse me of being racist.  "You thought the Mexican was going to get you, huh?"   "You're keeping an eye on the Black guy, hmm?"  You bet I am.  But not because you're Mexican or Black.  Because you're male.

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Why Healthy Boundaries are Important in Relationships

Therapists talk a lot about boundaries, but we're not always clear what we mean by "boundaries", why they are important to an individual's mental health, or why they are important for healthy relationships.  

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Discounts as a Form of Abuse

When transactional analysts talk about a "discount", they are not talking about getting something cheaper.  They are referring to something much more insidious.  A discount in TA is a way of denying some part of another person and, unfortunately, discounts are quite common in most of our lives. 

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Why Women Prefer "Bad Boys" to Good Men

Are you as puzzled as I used to be why women are always drawn to the "bad boys"?  I have a very good friend who is one of the greatest guys in the world.  But women won't touch him.  But give them a drunk, a player, an abuser, or a slacker and they are all over them.  Why?

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