I'm watching a fellow staff member get Scapegoated. You can tell she was the Hero of her family of origin and this sudden shift in roles is rocking her world.
There is an adage in parenting, "Praise the Positive". This concept, which is so important in parenting, is equally applicable in the work place."
In working with clients struggling with depression I often find that the work environment provides a lot of distress and discontent. I've not been exempt from these influences myself and always find the strategies of management to be somewhat curious.
Therapists tend to be very empathic. And this is a good thing in a therapy session. But it can really wreak havoc on our personal lives.
"It isn't fair!"
One employee is the boss' pet. They come in late, leave early, do not perform their job duties, have their work assigned to or covered by other people and spend the rest of their day surfing the internet or making personal calls. Other employees get reprimanded for doing all of these things. Yet this person gets away with it.
I hear this complaint a lot with other colleagues and with clients. How do you deal with it?
In his book, "Games People Play", Dr. Eric Berne describes the game of "Let's You and Him Fight". I see this game played out all the time in office politics. Let's say "Joe" is upset about something that has happened in the office, usually something done by the boss or someone in a position above him. He goes to his colleagues, Sam and Maria, to vent his frustration and to ask for advice. What does he get? Sympathy, for sure. What advice may Sam and Maria provide? "You should file a grievance." "You should go have it out with the person." "You should confront them about that." "You need to stand up for yourself." But is this really the best advice?