I'm watching the child escalate to higher and higher levels of distress while the mother drones on, completely oblivious to the cries of distress just a few feet away.
Today Moms has an interesting article asking just that question.
“I give my younger daughter Benadryl and Tylenol almost every night – she loves the taste and begs for it.”
“I gave my child Benadryl to go to sleep – years later now, I am still embarrassed to admit it.”
“I gave my child Benadryl when he was mildly congested to guarantee he would fall asleep on time so I could get to bed at a decent hour.”
But turning to medication just to get your kid to sleep indicates a deeper problem. According to Dr. Nancy Snyderman, medicating your children “every day is not OK. Drugs are never an OK substitute for parenting.” “If a mother is drugging a kid that much, it’s a parenting issue.”
And Today's Moms contributor Wendy Mogel states, “Moms are so nervous – what if she doesn’t get to sleep, then she’ll be tired and she has a math test tomorrow and then after the math test we have to go right to soccer practice…” Mogel told TODAY.com, her voice trailing off to indicate the never-ending to-do list that lives in every mom’s mind. “We’re taking shortcuts because parents are desperate.”
The mother grinned broadly and triumphantly when she announced that the psychiatrist had diagnosed her child with ADHD. "I knew it!" "No one would listen to me, but I knew it, and I was right!"
He is six years old. His mother begins the intake stating that he is "ADHD" and "Bipolar". She tells me his 3 year old little sister is also "Bipolar". I'm horrified. She's only 3 years old! The mother states this as if it were a fact. She continues...
There is an adage in parenting, "Praise the Positive". This concept, which is so important in parenting, is equally applicable in the work place."
The after school program called to say they had a medical emergency with a child and could not locate the mother. They were asking if we could help them find the mother and have her call them. Then the drama started...
One of my readers reminded me of this movie. It is a beautiful, but heart wrenching documentary created for a son, about his father.
A recent article on the Child Psychology Research Blog, "ADHD Medications and School Performance" cites a research study which shows that "medication alone may not have a significant impact on" the childrens' school functioning.
I really have a problem with the recent surge in diagnosing children with Bipolar Disorder. The children I see with this diagnosis are often the victims of serious issues at home, issues which may even include abuse. Some struggle with PTSD and the mood swings which are inherent in a traumatized individual are attributed to "Bipolar Disorder" and medicated.
Another possible way that Scapegoats make themselves targets is by expressing forbidden emotions within a relationship system.