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Are We Thinking Beings Which Feel or Feeling Beings Which Think?

It seems most Americans like to think of themselves as thinking beings who happen to feel.  But research into the human brain shows that we are instead feeling beings who are able to think.  I believe our failure to recognize this causes untold frustration and the current epidemic of people being diagnosed with depression.

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Military Structure and the Chaotic Family

Working in a homeless shelter, I work with a lot of clients who came from very dysfunctional and chaotic family systems.  One man grew up in such a family and overcame it by joining the military.  How did that help?  

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Why Healthy Boundaries are Important in Relationships

Therapists talk a lot about boundaries, but we're not always clear what we mean by "boundaries", why they are important to an individual's mental health, or why they are important for healthy relationships.  

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WWND? Why I Want to be More Like my Dog.

Some people, when confronted with a paradox in life, ask themselves, "What Would Jesus Do?"  Personally, I ask myself, "What would Nisse do?"  My goal in life is to be more like my dog, Nisse (pronounced "NIS suh").  I have a lot of human mentors in my life to whom I look up to, but Nisse has a special quality I lack and want to learn. 

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