I'm reading the August 2009 edition (yes I am a little bit behind in my reading) of Yoga Journal and I am reminded once again of all the benefits yoga has to offer in one's struggle for peace of mind and mental health.
Most of us know that increasing our self esteem will help us live fuller lives and have better relationships, but how exactly do you do this?
Working in a homeless shelter, I work with a lot of clients who came from very dysfunctional and chaotic family systems. One man grew up in such a family and overcame it by joining the military. How did that help?
Therapists talk a lot about boundaries, but we're not always clear what we mean by "boundaries", why they are important to an individual's mental health, or why they are important for healthy relationships.
Many people ask me how to build self esteem. I think one of the most important aphorisms I've heard was spoken many years ago by Dear Abby, "We teach people how to treat us." So this is where you begin, with good, healthy self care. When you care for yourself you communicate to yourself and others that you are worthy of care. What constitutes good self care?
I was always afraid of guns, because I didn't understand them. So I decided to learn to shoot. I didn't realize I was going to learn about a lot more than just firing a weapon.
Dan Jones has written a beautiful poem called "Shameless" which has a few lines which I think are priceless. He is talking about the nature of being shameless as well as what self-confidence is, and isn't. It's absolutely beautiful...
Some people, when confronted with a paradox in life, ask themselves, "What Would Jesus Do?" Personally, I ask myself, "What would Nisse do?" My goal in life is to be more like my dog, Nisse (pronounced "NIS suh"). I have a lot of human mentors in my life to whom I look up to, but Nisse has a special quality I lack and want to learn.
So many clients come to my office wanting help making decisions about what to do with a certain situation in their lives. More often than not therapy is not even needed if they would only heed on thing:
I once travelled to New Orleans (pre Katrina) where I was introduced to the concept of an air boat. We got on the airboat and ripped around the bayou for awhile when the captain turned to us and asked us if we wanted to drive the boat. I hesitated, and all was lost.