My sister is driving me crazy. Darn it. I know what that means.
I'm reading the August 2009 edition (yes I am a little bit behind in my reading) of Yoga Journal and I am reminded once again of all the benefits yoga has to offer in one's struggle for peace of mind and mental health.
I write a lot about the importance of feeling your feelings and being in touch with the messages thay are sending you. Perhaps this is because I rely so heavily on them in my everyday work. I cannot imagine being without them.
I don't always agree with Dr. Laura, but I think she was absolutely right about this. People with low self esteem often tend to gravitate to people with whom they feel equal, or even superior.
Most of us know that increasing our self esteem will help us live fuller lives and have better relationships, but how exactly do you do this?
Therapists talk a lot about boundaries, but we're not always clear what we mean by "boundaries", why they are important to an individual's mental health, or why they are important for healthy relationships.
Blood may be thicker than water, but you can't drink it. We are told throughout our lives that family is the most important thing. I constantly find myself working with clients who are deeply entrenched in the dynamics of toxic family systems. Helping them navigate these turbulent waters can be difficult, but well worth the effort.
Self talk is the little dialogue you have going on in your head throughout the day. It is extremely subtle and most people don't realize it's even going on. It's usually a "tape" of what your parents, or whoever raised you, said to you while you were growing up. If they were nurturing and supportive, your self talk probably is nurturing and forgiving. But if they were punitive, verbally abusive, demeaning, belittling, negative, fearful or insulting your self talk probably is too.
Dan Jones has written a beautiful poem called "Shameless" which has a few lines which I think are priceless. He is talking about the nature of being shameless as well as what self-confidence is, and isn't. It's absolutely beautiful...
Some people, when confronted with a paradox in life, ask themselves, "What Would Jesus Do?" Personally, I ask myself, "What would Nisse do?" My goal in life is to be more like my dog, Nisse (pronounced "NIS suh"). I have a lot of human mentors in my life to whom I look up to, but Nisse has a special quality I lack and want to learn.