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I'm not Racist. I'm Sexist! : How to Approach a Woman, Alone, at Night.

Often, when walking alone at night scanning the environment for danger, I have had minority males accuse me of being racist.  "You thought the Mexican was going to get you, huh?"   "You're keeping an eye on the Black guy, hmm?"  You bet I am.  But not because you're Mexican or Black.  Because you're male.

Power Games

Claude Steiner, author of "Scripts People Live" describes power struggles and maintains that there are two reasons people attempt to use power against others and two kinds of power which can be utilized to bring others under one's control.

Discounts as a Form of Abuse

When transactional analysts talk about a "discount", they are not talking about getting something cheaper.  They are referring to something much more insidious.  A discount in TA is a way of denying some part of another person and, unfortunately, discounts are quite common in most of our lives. 

Beauty and the Beast and Women in Relationships

I hate this particular fairy tale.  And I strongly encourage parents not to tell this story to their daughters.  Why?  It tells the story of a beautiful and intelligent woman who falls in love with a beast.  The moral of the story?  If she loves the beast enough he will become a prince.  What's wrong with that?