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What You Hate Most in Others, is the Shadow Within Yourself.

The Shadow in ourselves consists of all the emotions and thoughts we repress as being socially inappropriate.  Jealousy, rage, that evil twinge that relishes the thought of your boss being called on the carpet?  That is shadow material.  The more we repress shadow material, the more of a hold it has on us.

Strategies to Help you Deal with Low Frustration Tolerance

Having "low frustration tolerance" is often a factor in creating stress and can lead to anger and rage.  The good news is frustration tolerance can be increased by simply changing the way you think about things.  What is low frustration tolerance and how can you work to address it?

I'm Going to be Happy Today - Regardless!

Therapists tend to be very empathic.  And this is a good thing in a therapy session.  But it can really wreak havoc on our personal lives.

Procrastination and Hysteria as a Method for Self Glorification

I'm watching a colleague engage in mass hysteria while trying to finish a project, a project that was put off until the last possible second and now the entire office is in a hysterical uproar trying to meet the deadline.  Alas, this is nothing new.  This is the way every project is handled;  wait until the last minute, rush about like mad, get hysterical and scream at people.  Anytime I see behavior I don't understand I ask myself, "What purpose does it serve?"

How to Raise a Child Like a Dog

I may be flamed in the comments section for this article, but I've sat on it for too long.  Dog trainers understand concepts about raising a well behaved, civilized dog that many parents raising children aren't privy to.  I do not mean to suggest that children are dogs, certainly not.  But in some ways, our culture spends more time and energy sharing information about training a dog than information about raising a child.  What am I talking about?

An Amazing Woman: Aimee Mullins

When I think my life is hard and I want to quit, or just feel sorry for myself, I try to think of people like Aimee Mullins.  Who is Aimee Mullins?

"Never Give Up on Something You Can't Go a Day Without Thinking About"

I cannot find the author of this quote, but it's great, unless you are addicted to something. (smile)

Happy Mother's Day Mom

She was sent home from the hospital in a full body cast.  It must have weighed a ton, but my mother insisted on holding her and carrying her around because she wanted her to feel nurtured and cared for.  Traction and braces were next and countless hours of physical rehabilitation.  The doctors still said she would never walk.

Family Roles

In dysfunctional families, you often see the children adopting various roles to help the family function as a system.  But these roles can cause serious problems in their future lives.  Why are Family Roles important and why do we need to know about them?

Genograms

Genograms are a visual diagram of the psychosocial issues in your family tree.  Though the trained eye of a therapist is helpful in interpreting a genogram, you can make one yourself and learn a lot about your family dynamics.  What is a genogram, how do you make one, and why are they helpful?