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I couldn't agree more. For me, though, medication made things worse because my unconscious knew that drugs (and yes they are all nothing but druggings) are meant to shut up the truth about what has happened to the person because nobody wants to hear it. Drugs also harm the body, just like the trauma. I have also found many therapists to be strictly CBT types who want people to be quiet about the trauma and not let the truth of it show in any way. They want people to behave as if everything is alright EVEN THOUGH IT'S NOT. They want us to pretend and then we are failures when that makes us crazy. This is why therapies made me worse, too. As a matter of fact, but for my present therapy, ALL TREATMENT (even self-help books about anxiety and depression) made things worse. Same with religion (forgive and forget), positive thinking, etc. I am only better off now because I got fed up with people and have no problem telling them (with the most colorful language imaginable) exactly where they can stick stuff like that. If I feel anxious, then I just do. If I get tired or depressed, then I just do. I don't care who likes it. And I have dumped all idiots who are put out by my disinterest in pretending. It is freshing to read a professional admitting the truth that no one is allowed to say lest it hurt the feelings of some abusive family somewhere.

I'm afraid you are quite right. I read an interesting book about this phenomenon, Unspeakable Truths and Happy Endings. The author discusses how Americans cannot tolerate unhappy endings or unpleasant stories. We don't want to hear anything painful or sad. Unfortunately, this sometimes includes therapists who should be able to hear pain, that is what they are for.

Thank you for your comments.

I even coached my therapist, when I'd (calmly) say I was angry about something, he was quick to say it's because I had emotional dysregulation.

I tried to give him a hint and say no, I think I'm just completing "tranferance" because it's not safe to tell my own mother I'm angry at her.

If I expressed frustration about a project (job-hunting during a recession), along with determination to keep going, he only heard the "frustration" part, it seemed, and suggested that once I find a job then "the hard part will be tackling your emotional dysregulation".

I think this guy, who helped me quite a bit at the beginning, was growing frustrated that I was not yet on my way. What he did not realize was that this job search in the recession was postponing the final stage of my journey, and instead of saying "you're doing really well, handling this frustration really well" he further pathologized me. Luckily I did not take it too personally.

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