The major problem with seeking help from narcissistic abuse (or abuse by any of the cluster B personality disorders) is that their abuse is largely mental, stemming from the endless forms of emotional manipulation which they employ. Since there is no physical abuse and since these folks are so good at faking normal in front of other people, it’s hard to get people to understand just how toxic they really are. No matter where you go for help, be sure to look for someone who actually understands narcissism to be sure that you get appropriate help. I can think of three options:
- A therapist who is fluent in cluster B personality disorders. They are hard to find, but they are out there.
- A support group of survivors of cluster B personality disorders. Be sure they don’t allow the abusers to attend. If there is not one in your area and you live in a fairly large town, consider starting one yourself using the Meetup system or something similar. There are more survivors out there than you realize, unfortunately.
- The Reddit group, raisedbynarcissists. Even if you weren’t raised by narcissists, you just had a relationship with one, this group is free, anonymous and invaluable. It is a community of people who understand, thoroughly, what you are dealing with. It is a moderated group, so they keep it safe. And the people there give very helpful advice and offer a great deal of support.