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You Know You Are With a Narcissist if...

 

 

  • They display a lack of empathy.
  • Everything must revolve around them.
    They have a constant need for attention.  They are in constant need of narcissistic supply.  
  • There is a near total selfishness.
  • They have no regard for the rights of others
  • They create a lot drama wherever they go.
  • Frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies, or belittles others.
    They often view others with contempt.  
  • They manipulate everyone, including you.
  • They are grandiose and have an elevated sense of importance.
    They are very condescending of other people and a sense of superiority that is unwarranted.    
  • They are never wrong about anything.
    They blame you for everything.  They project their behavior onto you rather than own their own behavior.  
  • They are very defensive.
  • They do not respect your boundaries.
  • They do not take no for an answer.
  • You feel like you are walking on eggshells when you are with, being afraid of setting them off.  
  • They have a sense of entitlement.
  • Lack of responsibility, blaming and deflecting.
  • Splitting behavior.
  • They have severe mood swings which alter their behavior.
    Interacting them relies heavily on what mood they are in.  See eggshells. 
  • They are excessively attuned to others' reactions when it comes to themselves.
  • Name dropping, designer labels, money, power, title, status
  • Façade
  • Cycle of abuse
  • You feel controlled, as if you can't speak your mind without jeopardizing the relationship.
  • A narcissist isn't in love with their true self, but rather an idealized self-image.
    And they will protect that projected image at all costs.
  • They will hoard the conversation and leave no time for anyone else to speak.
  • They don't think the rules apply to them.
  • They are very paranoid, expect everyone to take advantage of them and basically treat them like they treat everyone else.  
  • Entitlement - Narcissists often expect preferential treatment from others. They expect others to cater (often instantly) to their needs, without being considerate in return. 
  • Negative emotions.
    Many narcissists enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions to gain attention, feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They are easily upset at any real or perceived slights or inattentiveness. They may throw a tantrum if you disagree with their views, or fail to meet their expectations. They are extremely sensitive to criticism, and typically respond with heated argument (fight) or cold detachment (flight). On the other hand, narcissists are often quick to judge, criticize, ridicule, and blame you. Some narcissists are emotionally abusive. By making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel better about themselves.
  • Using Others as an Extension of Self. Making decisions for others to suit one’s own needs. The narcissist may use his or her romantic partner, child, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or cover up self-perceived inadequacies and flaws.
  • Courting behavior and the cycle abuse.