Some wise person suggested a chore chart for adult children of narcissists. I thought that was brilliant! Having been raised by wolves I was never taught self care or good habits. So I latched onto this idea of a chore chart as a method of reparenting myself.
Since I was the scapegoat of the family I had a long list of faults I wanted to address with this chart so I got busy listing them. But then came the dilemma. A chore chart requires that you REWARD yourself when you complete your chores. Uhhhhhh...... I had no idea how to do that! I couldn't even think of anything I liked to do.
So, a week and a half later I finally figured it out. I LOVE smells! So I ordered some Yankee Candles and made the rule I would let myself burn some interesting new scent when I complete my chores.
My candles arrived last night and I spent an hour taking them out, smelling each one and picking out the "best" one for today. What a delight! I got up this morning, jumped on my chores and burned my first candle. It worked!
Silly maybe, but maybe it will help someone else. And I'm really happy!